Comments for Everydaystranger http://everydaystranger.net Just an ordinary girl living in extraordinary circumstances Thu, 24 May 2012 01:56:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on And Then Because by a http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/and-then-because/comment-page-1/#comment-65187 a Thu, 24 May 2012 01:56:35 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10809#comment-65187 I think one of the more important things I've learned in life is that we are all subject to criticism of some sort. I try to be a better person and not judge, not because I'm actually a better person, but because I'm an eternal devil's advocate and can usually see the other side. (It's funny how often I hear the phrase "I never thought of it that way." I guess seeing the other person's perspective is not that common.) I find the Lucifer story worth reading about because it's definitely not normal. And not normal is fascinating. I think one of the more important things I’ve learned in life is that we are all subject to criticism of some sort. I try to be a better person and not judge, not because I’m actually a better person, but because I’m an eternal devil’s advocate and can usually see the other side. (It’s funny how often I hear the phrase “I never thought of it that way.” I guess seeing the other person’s perspective is not that common.)

I find the Lucifer story worth reading about because it’s definitely not normal. And not normal is fascinating.

]]> Comment on And Then Because by Andrea http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/and-then-because/comment-page-1/#comment-65186 Andrea Thu, 24 May 2012 00:27:44 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10809#comment-65186 Hello, I am much more a lurker and a reader than a out and out poster. After reading today I had to let you know how much I enjoy reading your musings. At no time do I take what you have to say to be vindictive, petulant or provocative. I LIKE reading your blog because I connect with what you have to say. I LIKE your take on your life, how your sharing yourself with your children, your husband and your job and trying to be the best you that you can, while staying sane. You have a right to be proud of your son because he has manners and you have a right to be proud of yourself, becuase you taught them to him. Yes, there are children out there who unfortunatly have physical, mental and emotional needs that some times are hidden and unknown to the common eye. That does not mean you can not be proud of your son. I am thousands of miles away from you and am supportive of your efforts to be a good human! Hang in there... Andrea Hello,

I am much more a lurker and a reader than a out and out poster. After reading today I had to let you know how much I enjoy reading your musings. At no time do I take what you have to say to be vindictive, petulant or provocative. I LIKE reading your blog because I connect with what you have to say. I LIKE your take on your life, how your sharing yourself with your children, your husband and your job and trying to be the best you that you can, while staying sane. You have a right to be proud of your son because he has manners and you have a right to be proud of yourself, becuase you taught them to him. Yes, there are children out there who unfortunatly have physical, mental and emotional needs that some times are hidden and unknown to the common eye. That does not mean you can not be proud of your son.
I am thousands of miles away from you and am supportive of your efforts to be a good human! Hang in there…

Andrea

]]> Comment on Lion’s Pride by Karen http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/lions-pride/comment-page-1/#comment-65185 Karen Wed, 23 May 2012 15:46:24 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10789#comment-65185 Paula, your reply struck a chord with me. Most children are responsive, eager to please, pay attention, and can be taught to be well-behaved. Like Nick and Nora, they are a joy to parent, as Shannon so eloquently describes. But some children (like my grandson) are not, and their behavior will elicit advice, judgment, and scorn. The beleaguered parents--usually the mother--thus are hammered twice - once by the child's difficult behavior and next by those who observe and judge. It's a lonely place to be. If I may recommend a website, http://www.easytolovebut.com/, a blog written by parents needing community and support? It eases the stress to know we are not alone. Paula, your reply struck a chord with me. Most children are responsive, eager to please, pay attention, and can be taught to be well-behaved. Like Nick and Nora, they are a joy to parent, as Shannon so eloquently describes. But some children (like my grandson) are not, and their behavior will elicit advice, judgment, and scorn. The beleaguered parents–usually the mother–thus are hammered twice – once by the child’s difficult behavior and next by those who observe and judge. It’s a lonely place to be. If I may recommend a website, http://www.easytolovebut.com/, a blog written by parents needing community and support? It eases the stress to know we are not alone.

]]> Comment on Lion’s Pride by paula http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/lions-pride/comment-page-1/#comment-65184 paula Tue, 22 May 2012 13:30:02 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10789#comment-65184 I have two children. One who behaved marvelously in public, the other who is a Lucifer. He hasn't been labeled special needs but he's in Early Intervention with a speech therapist, an inclusion consultant and an occupational therapist trying to help me figure this willful child out and make his life easier (and my life, and the lives of his teachers). It's scary for me, wondering if we will ever crack the code. I haven't done anything differently with him. Some people think they are marvelous parents when they were just blessed. The worst part is that no matter what I do, I am judged by everyone around us in public. No one knows what we go through - they just label me a bad mother. It's so fun and easy to do that, isn't it? I have two children. One who behaved marvelously in public, the other who is a Lucifer. He hasn’t been labeled special needs but he’s in Early Intervention with a speech therapist, an inclusion consultant and an occupational therapist trying to help me figure this willful child out and make his life easier (and my life, and the lives of his teachers). It’s scary for me, wondering if we will ever crack the code. I haven’t done anything differently with him. Some people think they are marvelous parents when they were just blessed.

The worst part is that no matter what I do, I am judged by everyone around us in public. No one knows what we go through – they just label me a bad mother. It’s so fun and easy to do that, isn’t it?

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by margaret http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65173 margaret Sun, 20 May 2012 21:10:24 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65173 I like the gremlin metaphor. I call mine The Pit. It is so frustrating when it gets so fucking dark that I can't see past the edges. I got there for a bit on Mother's Day. Surprisingly, it wasn't the fact that Mother (with her dramatic flair) went and died on Mother's Day at the age of 48. It was looking at recent photos of my two ex-stepdaughters who are growing into beautiful young women. I wish they were still mine. I understand why they are not. But boy does it really hurt some days. Much love, and I'm always here if you need some gremlin pest control services. xo I like the gremlin metaphor. I call mine The Pit. It is so frustrating when it gets so fucking dark that I can’t see past the edges. I got there for a bit on Mother’s Day. Surprisingly, it wasn’t the fact that Mother (with her dramatic flair) went and died on Mother’s Day at the age of 48. It was looking at recent photos of my two ex-stepdaughters who are growing into beautiful young women. I wish they were still mine. I understand why they are not. But boy does it really hurt some days.

Much love, and I’m always here if you need some gremlin pest control services.
xo

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by Teresa http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65165 Teresa Sun, 20 May 2012 00:01:00 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65165 Well, you know what the say about gremlins: 1. Don't get them wet 2. No bright light 3. Never, ever feed them after midnight Seriously, you know where to find me. xo Well, you know what the say about gremlins:

1. Don’t get them wet
2. No bright light
3. Never, ever feed them after midnight

Seriously, you know where to find me. xo

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by Veronica http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65159 Veronica Sat, 19 May 2012 10:09:54 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65159 Slightly unrelated and I don't know if it will clash with whatever else you're taking, but have you tried Magnesium? A doctor recommended it for me (for the EDS nervous system dysfunction, circulation issues etc) and it's been helpful. Less wonky brain driven moods and my hands are managing to stay warm a little. Thought I'd mention it, do with the info what you will. Much love for the blues. They're miserable and require copious amounts of love and gentleness to get through. xxx Slightly unrelated and I don’t know if it will clash with whatever else you’re taking, but have you tried Magnesium? A doctor recommended it for me (for the EDS nervous system dysfunction, circulation issues etc) and it’s been helpful. Less wonky brain driven moods and my hands are managing to stay warm a little. Thought I’d mention it, do with the info what you will.

Much love for the blues. They’re miserable and require copious amounts of love and gentleness to get through. xxx

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by D http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65152 D Sat, 19 May 2012 01:38:31 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65152 I have those days, too - they creep up unexpectedly and you can feel them getting their tentacles around you before they strike hard. Everything is exhausting, the very thought of laughter is sickening, and you wish there was a word for the feeling. It's not just depression, because it's physical, too, but it's not quite pain. And when you've run through all the things you're supposed to do to get it to go away and still feel it, there's nothing left to do but lay on the carpet crying. And then you notice the carpet is dirty, so you have to get up to vacuum. Even in those dark moments, there's shit to do. The best advice I have is not terribly good, because it only works for me about half the time. But that's better than anything else. So here it is: pick a show or movie that comforts you. For me, it's Friends. Curl up in something fluffy and comfortable and let yourself get sucked in and soothed. You can only do so much to combat it - at a certain point, it's like a hangover, and the only thing that helps is time. I have those days, too – they creep up unexpectedly and you can feel them getting their tentacles around you before they strike hard. Everything is exhausting, the very thought of laughter is sickening, and you wish there was a word for the feeling. It’s not just depression, because it’s physical, too, but it’s not quite pain. And when you’ve run through all the things you’re supposed to do to get it to go away and still feel it, there’s nothing left to do but lay on the carpet crying. And then you notice the carpet is dirty, so you have to get up to vacuum. Even in those dark moments, there’s shit to do.

The best advice I have is not terribly good, because it only works for me about half the time. But that’s better than anything else. So here it is: pick a show or movie that comforts you. For me, it’s Friends. Curl up in something fluffy and comfortable and let yourself get sucked in and soothed. You can only do so much to combat it – at a certain point, it’s like a hangover, and the only thing that helps is time.

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by April http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65146 April Fri, 18 May 2012 14:37:40 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65146 Nothing to say other than I'm here if you need to vent/cry/talk or just have someone to "be" with. You're not alone. Nothing to say other than I’m here if you need to vent/cry/talk or just have someone to “be” with. You’re not alone.

]]> Comment on Life Is To Blame by a http://everydaystranger.net/2012/05/life-is-to-blame/comment-page-1/#comment-65137 a Fri, 18 May 2012 02:09:13 +0000 http://everydaystranger.net/?p=10801#comment-65137 Ha! I've always thought that I've never been able to get properly depressed, because I can't stay in bed staring at the walls. Well, I can do that for a short period of time, but then I have shit to do. Glad to know that I'm not exactly alone in that attitude. I hope this passes soon... Ha! I’ve always thought that I’ve never been able to get properly depressed, because I can’t stay in bed staring at the walls. Well, I can do that for a short period of time, but then I have shit to do. Glad to know that I’m not exactly alone in that attitude.

I hope this passes soon…

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