It’s Not You, It’s Me

Dear Dream Job,
I hate you. FOAD.
//Helen

Ooooh, um…no. Too harsh. Not to mention unprofessional. That’s not just burning the bridges, that’s pissing on the flaming ashes of the bridges. Clearly need to find more of those tablets…
Dear Dream Job,
I gave you my everything and all you did was kick my ass. Your employees are depressed and unhappy. We’re all unmotivated. I used to really love you, and always will, but Jesus talk about making me feel like you left a 20 on the nightstand, left me to sleep in the wet spot and bailed on me before daybreak.
//Helen

Nope. Too emotional.
Dear Dream Job -
I…

How do I word this?
How do you break up with your company?
In the end, I worded it this way:
Dear Dream Job -
I’ve been with you almost 5 years. It’s been an amazing time, I’ve done a few wonderful projects that shaped my career and the company history (like the rocket riding gerbil) and a few that maybe haven’t gone so well (drinking bird project). I am so very grateful for the oppportunities and experiences that you’ve given me, and it’s with regret that I now tender my resignation. I truly enjoyed working with a company of Dream Job’s caliber and Dream Job will always have my thanks and my loyalty. I am leaving to take a position in another company, and would like to further discuss with you my final leave date – I am on three month’s notice but perhaps we can find a middle ground to advantage both parties.
Many Thanks,
Helen

My four enquiries into four companies resulted in three interviews. Those three interviews turned into three final interviews. Those three final interviews turned into three firm job offers. Those job offers turned into a bidding war.
I have never, ever, been the recipient of something like this. It’s good for the ego but frankly completely nerve-wracking.
That bidding war has now resulted in a decision. I have just accepted an offer working for a large international company, one that includes a sparkly pay rise, a new boss who personally called me to tell me how happy they are that I’m coming on board, and an office that is only 5 miles away from our home and the nursery. This company was the one that interviewed me for 9 hours on Friday – although exhausting, if they want to be that sure of someone before bringing them on, it can only be a good thing.
I think we need to find a new name for who I work for, because it won’t be Dream Job for too much longer (that end date is still being negotiated).
Yesterday I handed in my notice.
And for the first time in so long, there is a light in my career, and I have a future.
-H.

62 Responses to “It’s Not You, It’s Me”

  1. Meredith says:

    YAY! *hugs*
    I lurk a lot, but I just wanted to say how thrilled I am for you and for your lovely family. The pics of the twins are so cute!!

  2. justdawn says:

    YAY!!! I am so excited for you:)

  3. Katy says:

    Woo hoo! Congrats!

  4. tanis says:

    Congrats! Here’s to a bright new beginning!

  5. Kath says:

    How wonderful, dear Helen! Congratulations! Onwards and upwards…

  6. Lily says:

    Congratulations!
    :-))
    L.

  7. Absolutely Fantastic. Congratulations.

  8. Marian says:

    Excellent!

  9. Suzie says:

    Fantastic news Helen! Well done you – I knew you’d get lots of offers. You’re too good a catch!
    :))

  10. deeleea says:

    Helen, this has been a such long time coming and I couldn’t be happier for you.
    Congratulations.

  11. Meg says:

    That’s wonderful! Congrats!

  12. amber says:

    Woo Hoo! I’m so happy for you!

  13. pam says:

    Congratulations!!!!!! :)

  14. sue says:

    Congrats!! Isn’t that fun to have a bidding war going for? Wowser… I’d say good for the ego is an understatement! Sounds like this is going to be great. 5 miles? Fantastic.

  15. Lee says:

    Congratulations!!! You must be well chuffed (as they say). :)

  16. ~Easy says:

    w00t!!! Way to go!

  17. Amanda says:

    What awesome news, congratulations!

  18. Suze says:

    Congratulations!

  19. MsPrufrock says:

    That bidding war thing should keep you in good spirits for a good decade or so. Congratulations!

  20. BeachGirl says:

    Well done!!!

  21. Tracy says:

    WOOHOO! Congrats, Lady. THREE MONTHS??? Is that standard over there? I was epected to give a month’s notice at my last place. Most others are sufficient with 2 weeks.

  22. Elizabeth says:

    Hip Hip Hooray!!!!!!!!!!

  23. Melissia says:

    I am so thrilled for you. And so totally not surprised about the bidding war, nor are any of your other readers as you are a catch, Helen and don’t you forget it! Congrats again.

  24. wRitErsbLock says:

    I will raise a glass in your honor tonight. Congratulations babe! I hope it’s everything you want it to be and more.

  25. Rachel says:

    Wow, what fantastic news! Congratulations on your new job, and all the great things that come with that!

  26. Paula says:

    Whoo, what fantastic news. Congratulations. And the best thing for me as a mother seems, that the company is only five miles away from you and you are paid well, that’s more that anyone can dream of! Now you got all you need, good job, good husband, lovely children, a home. Keep and cherish them!
    I’ll drink some champagne on you tonight!
    P.

  27. steff says:

    Awesome!

  28. Lisa says:

    Congratulations on the new job being so close and so convenient, and best wishes for a speedy resolution on the part of the X-dream job to let you go sooner than 3 months’ time so you can begin your new adventure. I am over the moon excited for you.

  29. 3e says:

    Splendid! I’m so happy for you! The new company is lucky they got you on board!!!

  30. Woo! Way to pull the hat trick on job offers. I am absolutely thrilled for you. I hope your ego feels stroked with a “happy ending” because you deserve it.

  31. lynD says:

    Hurrah and congratulations!
    L

  32. Donna says:

    I can’t even imagine how cool that must feel! Awesome! You go girl! Yay you!

  33. kenju says:

    HOORAY and CONGRATULATIONS!! See – I told you that would happen. I don’t know why you doubt me…LOL

  34. donna says:

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you. Sounds like a great opportunity and being so close to home is awesome!

  35. Sophie says:

    Hooray! Congratulations!

  36. Caroline M says:

    I am so very pleased for you, a 5 mile commute is worth sacrificing a lot for but you haven’t had to. I would have thought that you could be looking to leave just before Christmas, the Christmas/New Year period is not particularly productive after all.

  37. Kathy says:

    Congratulations!! Great for you.

  38. Jen says:

    Congratulations, Helen! This proves that the outside world sees you for how awesome you are!

  39. Carol says:

    yay!!! all great news!

  40. Lisa says:

    Congratulations!! :D

  41. Gill says:

    Congratulations! You sound happier already!

  42. That Girl says:

    Congrats! I knew you would do it.

  43. geeky says:

    Congrats Helen! Sounds like you landed yourself a fantastic job :)

  44. Sk says:

    I’m very happy for you and your family! Congrats!

  45. Jayne says:

    Local Job is my vote for the name of new job!!

  46. April says:

    Congratulations!

  47. Charles says:

    Great news, Great letter. Be surprised if dream job does not try to keep you.

  48. Kelly says:

    That’s fantastic – I’m so happy for you.
    Kelly

  49. Vicki says:

    Congratulations! You deserve this just like every good thing that has and will come into your life. I’m very happy for you!

  50. Amy says:

    Yipeee!!!!!!

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